So, today is FFAQ (which stands for “Friday’s Frequently Asked Question.”

The fact that I’m doing FFAQ today says a couple of things.

First, I am happy to report that I am truly feeling more comfortable in my skin. As you could probably imagine, based on the threat to my family I shared in this post, I was seriously contemplating whether or not blogging in a public forum is worth it–if it can come to a threat to my family, is this a risk I’m willing to take? Before posting that horrific exchange, I didn’t know what to think. I was confused, in some denial, and frustrated. Once I hit “publish” though and got that man’s words out there for all the world to see, I immediately felt more powerful and in control. And then the comments started flooding in and when so many of you came (as has happened in the past) to support me and my family, I was buoyed up. It helped me see that even though there are very real risks and consequences to putting one’s voice out there, there is also great value in doing so. There is so much that is beautiful in this community and so much support here, for myself and for others. I find myself saying thank you a lot on this blog, and I really mean it. It was very, very helpful to see so much support and so much appalled horror at what happened to me and my family because of this blog. Thanks for helping me remember why I’m doing this.

Second, alongside all of that, the last month saw an interesting thing happen with my coming out post. It somehow went viral again (on a smaller scale) and was read by thousands upon thousands of new people. I have no idea how this happened–like seriously, it felt totally and completely random and I couldn’t identify a source other than Facebook (thank you Facebook!)–but this means that there are a lot of new people here that might have questions.

And that’s what FFAQ is for, friends old and new!

So here’s how this thing goes down.

If you have a question–about anything at all, could be gay-related or just about my life or perhaps about quantum physics–leave it in the comments. If you see a question that you like, reply to that question with a comment that says “ditto.” The question with the most dittoes at the end of the day is the one I answer the next Friday, and so on and so forth, into perpetuity. Please only one ditto per question (you can ditto more than once). Please don’t cheat. It’s not a sophisticated or complex process, but it has worked well.

Tips: questions asked earlier in the day have a better chance at winning (for obvious reasons). Also, questions that win tend to be focused, pretty concise, and genuine.

Are you ready for this?

All righty then.