I made a list! And met Benji Schwimmer! Then forgot who he was!

Okay, first of all, Hello to you if you’re dropping in after watching Ricki Lake today. If you want to find my original coming out post, click here. I hear it’s a pretty good read. Otherwise, dig around for a while. You’re bound to find something interesting. Or not.

Second of all, guess what list I made?

Towleroad’s list of 50 most powerful coming outs of 2012!

This is the photo they used. Don’t we look candid and Nightlinesque? 

Let me explain something. I’m not accustomed to making lists. I proceed forward in life barely being noticed for much of anything. In high school, I wasn’t even close to winning a superlative. And if I had, it would have been “Most awkward plaid-wearing closeted gay who can’t hold a human conversation.”

So, to make a public, big deal list on a major blog is kinda cool.

I was up there with Anderson Cooper. And of course, fellow gay Mormon Benji Schwimmer who was the winner of So You Think You Can Dance a while back. So, I was in good company is what I’m saying.

Speaking of which, I met Benji a few months ago at Circling the Wagons. I even have photographic proof.

We were at an Indian restaurant with a bunch of people. I got Tikka Masala.

The funny thing about this picture is that we met at the conference itself and had a really good conversation. (He’s an awesome guy.) Then, after dinner, he came up and was like “listen, I’m in Washington for work a ton, so we should definitely get together and grab lunch sometime…” and I, genius that I am, didn’t recognize him. Why? Because he had changed clothes. It was like a magic trick! And apparently I don’t notice patterns very well, like the repetition of the exact same face on the same day you have met said face.
Anyway, I was like “Uh huh…” but inside I was all awe-struck and confused and like “who aaaaare you?” and he looked at me like I was insane. And then we took this picture, and I realized it was Benji as it was being taken. Because someone said his name. 
See? I’m very intelligent. 
In closing, I was going to do a check-in. But I think we will do one Saturday and then have that be the official check-in day forever more. Or until my ADD ruins things. Whichever comes first.
So let it be done! 
Also, get ready to post questions tomorrow. I’ll post a FFAQ poll, so get ready to either ask a question or get ready to ditto on that post. (I’ll do it before work, so it’ll be up early.)
G’bye friends. 


  1. Tikka masala. Mmmmmmm.

    (My four-year old son just came over to stand by my side while I typed this. He then pointed to the screen and read, "Does Wal-mart make you grumpy?" out loud. I'm just grateful he didn't read the line two above that. That would have been awkward.)

  2. My son, an aspie, when he was about seven, confided in me that it really upset him that the kids in his school class changed their shirts because it made it really difficult for him to remember their names.

    1. ADHD kiddo here… For 2 solid years referred to his classmates as

      – Redshirt Guy
      – Redshirt, wore white yesterday, and green on Tuesday Guy (to differentiate the 2 "Redshirt Guys")
      – Blonde Ponytail Girl
      – Fluffy Girl (I have to admit, it was the BEST description of an article of clothing that was part TuTu part Pirate Shirt)
      – Green Girl

      NAMES… Which stayed the same, he thought were too hard to learn. But he kept a running wardrobe history of his entire class. Face. Palm


  3. Dang it…I love So You Think You Can Dance, and I honestly completely missed that Benji Schwimmer had come out. I am apparently a terrible fan.

    But anyway, congrats on making the list! Waaaay cooler to get on that list than to have a high school superlative.

  4. Speaking of things we read while looking at your blog — I read your post, then looked up at the picture of your lovely smiling family, and right above that another tab on my browser read "PEOPLE ARE AWESOME" — and I thought that was a pretty good label for your picture.

    And I liked your post, too.

  5. Hey Josh, do you read Towleroad regularly? Just curious – I was a little surprised that you did, but then realized I was stereotyping. Sorry! 😀

  6. Saw the Ricki show today, and recognized your faces. You both did a fantastic job! It's neat to see such an inspiring and hopeful story getting that kind of media attention. What a great example you are to others. Thank you for your honesty, and willingness to share.

  7. I recently came across your blog and just wanted to leave a comment to add to the many others that I've seen. Thank you for putting all of this out there. This isn't something I've had to deal with myself (I'm straight, LDS, happily married for 11 yrs) but I have loved learning your perspective on this and understanding how you manage to live the way you do, and happily too. I'm sure you are a strength and inspiration to others trying to deal with similar feelings, and are definitely a strength and inspiration for those of us just wanting to understand better and be a support for others.

    Keep up the good work.

    And your writing is a great read too, I love your sense of humor 🙂

  8. Just found your blog. Love it. I'm LDS and an MFT as well, and I think there's a lot of great work to be done, personally as well as professionally, in the gay LDS community. I'll definitely be reading your stuff regularly.

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