A busy day + our thoughts on a reality TV show

I don’t have time for a real post. So I’m busting out another short one so that you know that I am yet alive. Lolly and I are presenting at a symposium today and then are being filmed for a documentary tonight. It’s funny because when people ask “so, has your life calmed down and gotten back to normal?” I keep telling people “oh, yeah, things are definitely getting back to normal…” and then when I look at days like today I realize that things keep not getting back to normal at all.

Probably what I mean when I have the impulse to say that is that this is starting to feel like a new normal.

Wish us luck today.

Oh! In response to last post’s reality TV question…

Let me tell you what the deal is. So, we were contacted a while back by a production company who wanted to pitch a show about us to all the major networks. We seriously considered it, because that’s what you do when someone offers you the opportunity to completely revamp your entire financial situation. We prayed about it, talked to the girls about it, talked to our family and friends about it, and sincerely thought about what that would look like for our family. In the end, despite the fact that there would be many good (principally financial) things that could come out of something like this, we decided against it for many of the reasons you guys pointed out in your comments. The reason I brought it up last post is we were contacted by yet another production company. I haven’t even returned the phone call because we are pretty secure in our decision. But, I did want to throw it out there on the blog to see what y’all thought on the matter, and you came up with pretty much every reason we had decided not to put our family through something like that in the first place. It was interesting to see how many people feel like they would never want to be on a show like that.

Anyway, the bottom line is that if it were just Lolly and I, we might consider it. But we are 100% unwilling to put our girls into a situation that would compromise their futures. They’re still so sweet and so innocent. And I have the feeling becoming a reality TV “star” (<—- I use the term very lightly) would change that. My job is to protect them. Not exploit them, even if it yields a college fund (which because of becoming a reality TV star would probably end up becoming a “binge drinking/clubbing/raving/heroin fund.”)

Have you ever SEEN a more lucrative-looking set of cash cows? It’s totally okay to ruin their lives because it will earn them money and that will solve EVERYTHING!!!

All right, I better get ready to go.


  1. Yeah, reality TV seems like it could really skew your kids' view of the world. Plus, I'd hope the producers would be honest about your life situation, but there's every possibility they'd play up the drama and make you look like total basketcases. A friend of mine was on The Bachelor and she said that there wasn't half the drama in real life that they portrayed and it really made people who met her after she was on the show view her in a more critical light.

  2. Your girls are adorable. As an LDS mother of four … soon to be five, I agree it is our job to protect them and prepare them while they are young. Finances don't have a whole lot to do with that. I've known some parents that have successfully raised large families on not much money. All the kids had to work their way through college and appreciated their education better.

  3. Good job. Your girls might be upset when they grow up to be teenagers and realize they could have been "famous" and then when they grow up more, they'll be grateful again that you decided not to pursue living a reality TV show life. It would be interesting to see what they'd ask you to do (to make it exciting).

  4. I have been reading since your "big post", but this is my first comment. You have just gained an enormous amount of respect from me, because of your anti-reality show stance. Kudos!!! I'm so glad to hear that you won't be turning your sweet girls into child stars…good choice!

  5. "Anyway, the bottom line is that if it were just Lolly and I, we might consider it. But we are 100% unwilling to put our girls into a situation that would compromise their futures."

    ^^^ This is exactly the right decision. Way to be good parents.

  6. yeah, its probably for the best. i mean, if y'all had a show, i would be forced to get cable and become an addict of your show and then i would gain fifty more pounds as a couch potato… because i would burn the other 50 pounds off from laughing at the hilarity of your show… anyways, i owe my lack of morbid obesity (as well as a cable bill) to you. muchas gracias.

  7. In life we face many decisions that can be very enticing and hard to turn down. But giving up something good (money) for something even better (protecting your daughters and parenting them on your terms) is what sacrifice is all about. I don't judge you for considering it but I am so impressed with you and Lolly for saying no. Very wise!

  8. I find it interesting that you would say "we feel secure" and all, but then give us readers the option of weighing in on your own personal choices. They're yours. It's all between you and the Lord. I don't think you're forgetting that, but I hope other readers aren't either. In Mormon culture we're taught to judge each other sometimes, even though the gospel of Jesus Christ teaches otherwise.

  9. Good call Josh.

    I know what you want to do with those gorgeous little girls…



    (Not that they wouldn't win everything.)

    I think I'll stop now.

  10. You have greater control over your message from here, I think. And you bless my life from here as well as, I am certain, others'.

  11. I think you're doing very well on not taking that offer… reality tv is not only ridiculous, but as you pointed out, it will pretty much ruin your girls' lives. I thoroughly respect you for your decision! Parenting is much more than having financial security and a college fund. You guys are great parents.

  12. I agree with everyone about not doing reality TV. You have zero control over what is shown.

    However, the money is a big consideration. It would be nice to be able to fund your children's college education more easily. Might I humbly suggest that you write a book instead? You are an excellent writer, and with a book, you completely control what is presented. I bet people would love to read your book!

  13. You could always do Vlogs about your life on Youtube, that way you are always in control of what content is being put out there, but still making loads of money. See the Shaytards Youtube channel for an example. They are making 6 figures by just making daily vlogs about their family life. They are LDS as well.

  14. Thank you for making the decision NOT to participate in a reality tv show. You do have your head on straight…..your main job is to protect your girls (all of them!). My respect for you grows also as you continue on with your lives.

  15. Money, schmoney:) I haven't had that for 13 years of marriage and yet we are happy and have everything we need. Plus we have seen huge miracles happen that wouldn't have had we had more. I know that seems weird, but it's true.

  16. The thing is… Your family is pretty dang normal, Im assuming,as in your SSA isn't on the forefront of everyday life– would there be much of a premise anyhow ?? 😉

  17. I think you two made a wise decision, and for all the right reasons. That's just my opinion, of course. But knowing what a sham "reality" TV is, I wouldn't want anything to do with it, and I definitely wouldn't subject my family to it.

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