Well, we’ve been pretty swamped here at Weed Central. Today was probably the first day we felt any kind of “normal.” We had Viva’s co-op pre-school graduation, and then we hung around and talked to the other co-op parents, and it was really nice. They were totally supportive and awesome, and the conversation made us feel refreshed and affirmed. It can get a little bit crazy when four bazillion people all have an opinion about your life and share that opinion with the world, so to have a conversation with people who know us in real life was very nice.
The truth is that Lolly and I are pretty exhausted. The highs and lows of this experience are stunning, and while we are getting used to things, it’s still difficult for us at times. Sometimes the comments are very biting. Sometimes my sweet Lolly cries at things people say and it breaks my heart. Sometimes it feels frustrating to have things said about you that are patently untrue. But these were all risks we knew we were taking in being more open. (We just didn’t realize the magnitude to which it would occur.)
But beyond all of this, there’s this shining hope. There was a response to my coming out post
that is undeniable. Lives have been touched, and hearts are healing, and knowing that gets us through the more difficult moments. The messages of hope and love and healing keep pouring in. Know that we are working hard to meet the needs of all those who have reached out to us for help. There are still so many emails to respond to, so many people in crisis. People who are hurting, and who need help.
If you’ve contacted us, we do hope to get to you soon. We’re also talking about how to take the momentum from this experience and channel it in a good direction–so stay tuned, there are plans in the works. We aren’t ignoring you, and you aren’t alone, and you are okay just as you are, no matter who you are and what you have chosen for yourself. We love you. Thanks for being in touch.
In case you didn’t see it, here’s us on the evening news in Utah
. Two funny things: first they compiled the entire story without us knowing, so we had no idea we were on the news at all until Facebook friends let us know. Second, we don’t even live in Utah.
(I kind of love how Seattle, where we live, is kinda like *yaaaaawn*.)
Also, we wanted to thank reader Steve Decker who made us a great logo for Club Unicorn. (Yes, we’re trying to take steps to make it an actual club.)
If any of you have an idea for a logo, we’d love to see it. Send it our way! We’ll probably use various.
Finally quick anecdote:
This morning as Lolly and I were discussing Deep and Meaningful Things, Anna came up to us and said “can I ask you an important question?” We were engrossed in our conversation and we tried to tell her to wait just a minute and brush her off, but then she just came out with it. “Is the tooth fairy real?”
Suddenly we were completely focused. This was a big one. This was the first inquiry as to whether one of the Big Three (Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy (Leprechauns are probably a sub-category)) was real. How we handled this conversation would determine a lot, and we wanted to do it right.
Plus, this is not the first “big reveal” conversation we’ve had with Anna. As you can see here, when she asked us about what happened to Bambi’s mom, there’s no way in the world we could have anticipated the direction that conversation would go (hint: cannibalism). (Really, you should read that post. It’s one of my favorites.)
This conversation went a totally different direction than that. A really nice direction, actually.
Lolly: What was that sweetheart?
Anna: I just want to know if the tooth fairy is real? Is she? Is she Mommy?
Lolly (after exchanging glances with me): Well, why do you want to know that?
Anna: I just do. Because I just really love her. Is she really real?
Lolly: Well, Anna, do you love Doc McStuffins? (Sidenote: Doc McStuffins is a new kids show the girls are obsessed with about a little girl who is a doctor to her toys.)
Lolly: And is Doc McStuffins real?
Lolly: But do you still love her even though she’s pretend?
Anna: Yes. But what about the tooth fairy. Is she real?
Me: No, Anna-girl. The tooth fairy isn’t real.
Anna (perplexed): But who put money under my pillow when I lost my tooth?
Lolly: I did sweetheart. I’m your tooth fairy.
Anna: You are!?? You’re my tooth fairy!
And at that point Anna’s eyes lit up with true joy and she rushed over and threw her arms around Lolly. “Thanks so much for being my tooth fairy,” she said. Then we talked about how all kids’ parents are their tooth fairies, but that we should let their parents tell them about it.
It was definitely the sweetest thing I’ve seen all day.
Hopefully she’ll have a similar reaction when she finds out I’m Santa. And the Easter Bunny. And a Leprechaun. And a Unicorn.