Last night we were driving back from Portland (where we had Thanksgiving with my parents, which was very nice) when something tragic occurred.
I unintentionally sent my daughter, Anna, spiraling into the Booger Paradox (which isn’t actually a paradox at all–more of a positive feedback loop–but who cares when it sounds so much more compelling to call it a paradox, and 67% of people aren’t bothered when someone calls a positive feedback loop a paradox?)
How did I initiate the Booger Paradox?
I did it by being a man. A man who can’t do hair. And who physically assaults his daughter (not really. Please hang up with CPS and take a chill pill) thus making her bawl, thus causing boogers to come out of her nose which she finds really frustrating, which makes her cry more, which makes for more nose-running, which causes more crying, which causes more boogers, which causes even more crying… you see the paradox that’s actually a positive feedback loop here, right? It’s a vicious cycle of boogers and weeping.
Allow me to explain what happened.
Anna was in the back seat complaining that she couldn’t sleep because her ponytail prevented her from laying her head back comfortably. I offered to take it out of her hair for her because wife is driving.
Here. Here’s a diagram of the complex process:
|And thus it continues, potentially endlessly|
Me: “Anna, if you keep crying about boogers, boogers will keep coming out of your nose.”
Me: “See, sweetie? That crying you’re doing? That’s actually making more boogies come out of your nose.”
Anna: *cries with even more frustration*
Me: “What you’re going to have to do is wipe really well, then stop crying so that the boogies can all dry up. Here, blow your nose.”
Anna: *sucks in.*
(Side note: Anna’s never been able to blow her nose. She does learn new things every day, so I thought maybe nose-blowing was something they’d taught her in pre-school. You know, for her and all those other kids who also can’t exhale forcefully out of their nostrils on command.
I was incorrect.)
Me: “No, see, you have to blow out. Like this.” I exhale from my nose, trying dutifully not to jettison a boogie myself. “Try again.”
Anna: *sucks in again and starts to cry very loudly with frustration*
At this point, the sweet, docile father-figure that knew he had caused the mess vanished, and instead I became an annoyed and frustrated parent ready to settle this immediately. I think I rounded out this delightful exchange with something really useful like “Anna! You’re just going to have to face it: either your stop crying, or the boogers will keep coming, and keep making you want to cry more! Just wipe once more, close your eyes, and go to sleep!”
Of course this induced more crying, thus more boogers/runny nose, thus more torture for all of us. At least for a little while
1. I need to keep my freaking man hands to myself. Especially when it comes to hair.
2. I need to research how to teach the skill of nose-blowing.
3. I need to not be a jerk about the Booger Paradox. Especially when I caused the inciting event.
4. I deserve a prize for parenting. Clearly.
Eventually, as it turns out, my feeble and embarrassing efforts paid off. Anna was able to lay her head back and sleep soundly. And thus the cycle was stopped.
At least until the next time I decide I can help with her hair…